Showing posts with label Precept 3. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Precept 3. Show all posts

Saturday, February 09, 2008

Would Life be Better Without Promiscuity?

I have covered the Way To Happiness Precept Don't be Promiscuous in a previous blog post, so I won't quote it again. If you'd like to read the earlier blog post, click here. Here I'd like to address why I think the world would be better if people were not promiscious, because I have read plenty of magizenes and news articles that seem to have the opposite idea. The idea that the modern world seems to have agreed to is that it's okay to sleep around, to just hang out, to have a f*** buddy, and so on. I wholeheartedly disagree with this general idea and I will share a very personal experience to show you why.
A few years ago I was between boyfriends and I decided that I would try the whole "one night stand" concept. I had never done it before, but thought that if my friends were into it, why couldn't I be? So, I had a one night stand. I went home the next day and discovered that not only did I feel degraded and cheap, but I also had a much lower opinion of the guy that I slept with. I basically had started out the night thinking that he was pretty good looking and nice and ended it thinking he was a total jerk.
Basically, the above experience is one that I will never repeat. I don't like feeling that way about myself or other people.
Now, was that "promiscuous" per se? The word "promiscious" is defined in The Way to Happiness book as: casual, random sexual relations. So, yes, it was. I certainly could have lived without the experience, too.
Anyway, I've given my view on promiscuity. I don't think it's something that is necessary for life on earth. It doesn't seem very natural to me. If
bald eagles and other animals can apply this precept, I think humans can too.

Sunday, November 26, 2006

Precept 3 of the Way to Happiness

The 3rd precept of the Way to Happiness is:

"3. Don't be *promiscuous.
Sex is the means by which the race projects itself into the future through children and the family. A lot of pleasure and happiness can come from sex: nature intended it that way so the race would go on. But, misused or abused, it carries with it heavy penalties and punishments: nature seems to have intended it that way also."

This breaks down into one additional precept:
"3-1: Be faithful to your sexual partner."

I, personally, feel that this is a very obvious one. You only have to watch one episode of Cheaters to see how it feels to find out your sexual partner is cheating on you. God forbid it ever actually happens to you.
History, newspaper and television carry floods of instances of violence due to human passions aroused by unfaithfulness. "Guilt" is a mild evil when compared to the monsters of jealousy and vengeance.
Not only do human passions get aroused, but there is also the question of health. Having multiple sexual partners lays you and your partners open to sexually transmitted disease such as AIDs and HIV.
The problems of sexual misbehaver is not new. The powerful religion of Buddhism in India vanished from there in the seventh century. According to it's one historians, the cause was sexual promiscuity in it's monasteries.
The urge of the moment can become the sorrow of a lifetime. Don't allow yourself and those around you to fall into the trap of sexual promiscuity.

"Sex is a big step on the way to happiness and joy. There is nothing wrong with it if it is followed with faithfulness and decency."
*Promiscuous: Casual, random sexual relations.