Would Life be Better Without Promiscuity?

I have covered the Way To Happiness Precept Don't be Promiscuous in a previous blog post, so I won't quote it again. If you'd like to read the earlier blog post, click here. Here I'd like to address why I think the world would be better if people were not promiscious, because I have read plenty of magizenes and news articles that seem to have the opposite idea. The idea that the modern world seems to have agreed to is that it's okay to sleep around, to just hang out, to have a f*** buddy, and so on. I wholeheartedly disagree with this general idea and I will share a very personal experience to show you why.
A few years ago I was between boyfriends and I decided that I would try the whole "one night stand" concept. I had never done it before, but thought that if my friends were into it, why couldn't I be? So, I had a one night stand. I went home the next day and discovered that not only did I feel degraded and cheap, but I also had a much lower opinion of the guy that I slept with. I basically had started out the night thinking that he was pretty good looking and nice and ended it thinking he was a total jerk.
Basically, the above experience is one that I will never repeat. I don't like feeling that way about myself or other people.
Now, was that "promiscuous" per se? The word "promiscious" is defined in The Way to Happiness book as: casual, random sexual relations. So, yes, it was. I certainly could have lived without the experience, too.
Anyway, I've given my view on promiscuity. I don't think it's something that is necessary for life on earth. It doesn't seem very natural to me. If bald eagles and other animals can apply this precept, I think humans can too.

Sex and the Tone Scale

I just completed the "Starting a Successful Marriage Course" and in it, it talks about the tone scale (where people are at emotionally, are they enthusiastic, interested, bored, overtly hostile, covertly hostile, fearful, sad, etc) and how they react to the subject and action of sex. Here is a brief overview:

• People who are enthusiastic in life have a high enjoyment level and very moral reactions toward sex.


• People very interested in life have a high interest in the opposite sex and are faithful to their partners.


• People who are bored in life have some disinterest in sex, mostly because they are not interested in anything. Sexual action can be performed, depending on physical ability.


• People who are openly hostile are disgusted with sex and have a revulsion toward sex. When people are very hateful, they can use sex as a punishment.


• People who are covertly hostile will be promiscuous, perverse and sadistic. They do not enjoy sex, but have a hectic anxiety about it. Here is the pervert, unfaithful lover, easy marriage and quick divorce.


• People who are constantly sad are often impotent and are anxious about sex, with only occasional efforts to procreate.
  

More info can be found in the course above and in the book: Science of Survival, which is a really informative book that talks about people and how to understand and deal with them.

Another reason I thought I'd bring the above info up on my blog is that I've run into situations with my friends where they weren't being so sane when it came to sex with other people. To me, a lot of the information that I read in the course above and in Science of Survival helped me understand what they were going through and how to help them.