Sunday, February 17, 2008

Communication and How it Affects Relationships - Continued

Have you ever been annoyed by how long it took for your significant other (or anyone else for that matter) to answer a question or do something? I know I sure have. I was once in a relationship where my boyfriend would rarely respond to a question without a good 20 minutes to think it over. I am not the kind of person who likes to sit around and think a simple question like "How was your day?" over for 20 minutes (okay, I might be exaggerating), so I got annoyed with him.
In Scientology, there is a test you can use on your significant other (or anyone else, friends, family, whoever!) to see if you will be able to communicate with them or if you will go crazy trying to communicate with them. This is an interesting and important test to make,
since communication is so important in a relationship.

So, without further ado, here it is from the horse's mouth (meaning as written by L. Ron Hubbard):

"There should be some parity of intellect and sanity between a husband and wife for them to have a successful marriage....

"In Scientology, there is a test for sanity and comparative sanity which is so simple that anyone can apply it. What is the 'communication lag' of the individual? When asked a question, how long does it take him to answer it? When a remark is addressed to him, how long does it take to register and return?

"The length of time intervening between the time a question or remark is addressed to a person and the time that that person answers the original question or statement is known as his 'communication lag'....

"Marital partners who have the same communication lag (meaning that their rate of response to questions or remarks addressed to them is similar) will get along; where one partner is fast and one is slow, the situation will become unbearable to the fast partner and miserable to the slow one."

So, there ya go. If you want to know what kind of person to start a relationship with, use the communication lag rule. Works every time I've used it! Let me know how it works for you.

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