Great Links About Scientology

Here are some great links about Scientology:

A free eBook about the Theology of Scientology

What do Religious Scholars say about Scientology?

Scientology Celebrity David Pomeranz accepts an award for L. Ron Hubbard

A great post about one of my most favorite quotes from L. Ron Hubbard

Citizens in Santa Cruz are campaigning for a psychotropic free zone

Applying Scientology to Computer Programming

Communication and How it Affects Relationships - Continued

Have you ever been annoyed by how long it took for your significant other (or anyone else for that matter) to answer a question or do something? I know I sure have. I was once in a relationship where my boyfriend would rarely respond to a question without a good 20 minutes to think it over. I am not the kind of person who likes to sit around and think a simple question like "How was your day?" over for 20 minutes (okay, I might be exaggerating), so I got annoyed with him.
In Scientology, there is a test you can use on your significant other (or anyone else, friends, family, whoever!) to see if you will be able to communicate with them or if you will go crazy trying to communicate with them. This is an interesting and important test to make, since communication is so important in a relationship.

So, without further ado, here it is from the horse's mouth (meaning as written by L. Ron Hubbard):


"There should be some parity of intellect and sanity between a husband and wife for them to have a successful marriage....

"In Scientology, there is a test for sanity and comparative sanity which is so simple that anyone can apply it. What is the 'communication lag' of the individual? When asked a question, how long does it take him to answer it? When a remark is addressed to him, how long does it take to register and return?

"The length of time intervening between the time a question or remark is addressed to a person and the time that that person answers the original question or statement is known as his 'communication lag'....

"Marital partners who have the same communication lag (meaning that their rate of response to questions or remarks addressed to them is similar) will get along; where one partner is fast and one is slow, the situation will become unbearable to the fast partner and miserable to the slow one."


So, there ya go. If you want to know what kind of person to start a relationship with, use the communication lag rule. Works every time I've used it! Let me know how it works for you.

Communication and How it Affects Relationships

I've been meaning to write something on this for a little while now, but haven't gotten around to it. As I mentioned in a previous post, I recently completed the Starting the Successful Marriage Course. No, my boyfriend hasn't proposed, so congratulations are not in order - but we did do the course together!

Anyway, that's beside the point. I wanted to do a post regarding one of the things I learned on the course, with regards to communication. In Scientology, there is something we call the ARC Triangle which stands for Affinity*, Reality** and Communication***. If these point are all used, they bring about Understanding. This is incredibely important in a relationship. In fact, one of the biggest complaints I hear from my friends are "He just doesn't understand me." Maybe the problem is that he doesn't get why she simply has to buy that $200 pair of jeans or she doesn't like it when he checks other women out or whatever, it really doesn't matter. It can all be solved by using the ARC triange. The whole principle of the triangle is that these three things (Affinity, Reality and Communication) are all related. As Mr. Hubbard puts it in the course booklet for the Starting the Successful Marriage Course:

"Without affinity there is no reality or communication. Without reality there is no affinity or communication. Without communication there is no affinity nor reality."

So, the basic idea is that if there is no affection between people, they will have no reality and will not be able to communicate.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt your partner didn't listen to you? Did it do well or poorly? Anytime I've had that scenerio - it always led to a fight, which is to say, a lowering of affinity, reality, communication and finally a lowering of understanding. You don't feel like they "get" you because they aren't communicating, which makes your affection for them less and makes your relationship less real. Have you ever experienced this? Let me know!




*Affinity: means emotional response. The feeling of affection or lack of it.
**Reality: means the solid objects, the real things of life.
***Communication: means an interchange of ideas between two people

Would Life be Better Without Promiscuity?

I have covered the Way To Happiness Precept Don't be Promiscuous in a previous blog post, so I won't quote it again. If you'd like to read the earlier blog post, click here. Here I'd like to address why I think the world would be better if people were not promiscious, because I have read plenty of magizenes and news articles that seem to have the opposite idea. The idea that the modern world seems to have agreed to is that it's okay to sleep around, to just hang out, to have a f*** buddy, and so on. I wholeheartedly disagree with this general idea and I will share a very personal experience to show you why.
A few years ago I was between boyfriends and I decided that I would try the whole "one night stand" concept. I had never done it before, but thought that if my friends were into it, why couldn't I be? So, I had a one night stand. I went home the next day and discovered that not only did I feel degraded and cheap, but I also had a much lower opinion of the guy that I slept with. I basically had started out the night thinking that he was pretty good looking and nice and ended it thinking he was a total jerk.
Basically, the above experience is one that I will never repeat. I don't like feeling that way about myself or other people.
Now, was that "promiscuous" per se? The word "promiscious" is defined in The Way to Happiness book as: casual, random sexual relations. So, yes, it was. I certainly could have lived without the experience, too.
Anyway, I've given my view on promiscuity. I don't think it's something that is necessary for life on earth. It doesn't seem very natural to me. If bald eagles and other animals can apply this precept, I think humans can too.

Internet Down!

I have an internet connectivity problem. I will get a post out before Sunday... just not until my darn connection works.