Can You Be Right?

Have you ever run across a situation where you knew you were right and another person with a different opinion knew they were right? Happens almost every day, right? Well, last night I ran across just such a situation. I am pretty darn sure I was right and the other guy was damned if he was going to be wrong. So, what to do? Here's what L. Ron Hubbard has to say as excerpted from the chapter You Can Be Right from the Introduction to Scientology Ethics Book:

"One tries to be right always, right down
to the last spark.

"How, then, is one ever wrong?

"It is this way:

"One does a wrong action, accidentally or through oversight. The
wrongness of the action or inaction is then in conflict with one's necessity to
be right. So one then may continue and repeat the wrong action to prove it is
right."

...

"For rightness is the stuff of which survival is made. And as one approaches the
last ebb of survival, one can only insist on having been right, for to believe
for a moment one has been wrong is to court oblivion."

So how do we cure this desire to repeat wrong actions, just to prove you are right? Mr. Hubbard has the answer for that too:

"But by getting the offender off the compulsive repetition of the wrongness, one
then cures it.

"But how?

"By rehabilitating the ability to be right!

"This has limitless application - in training, in social skills, in marriage, in law, in life.

"Example: A wife is always burning dinner. Despite scolding, threats of divorce, anything, the compulsion continues. One can wipe this wrongness out by getting her to explain what is right about her cooking. This may well evoke a raging tirade in some extreme cases, but if one *flattens the question, that all dies away and she happily cease to burn dinners. Carried to classic proportions but not entirely necessary to end the compulsion, a moment in the past will be recovered when she accidentally burned a dinner and could not face up to having done a wrong action. To be right she thereafter had to burn dinners."

*Flatten (a question): Flattening something means to do it until it no longer produces a reaction.

Part of this article can be found here. If you want to read the whole article, buy or borrow the Introduction to Scientology Ethics Book. You can check out your local library, get it at the Church website or go into a Scientology Church and look at it in the Church library.

Sex and the Tone Scale

I just completed the "Starting a Successful Marriage Course" and in it, it talks about the tone scale (where people are at emotionally, are they enthusiastic, interested, bored, overtly hostile, covertly hostile, fearful, sad, etc) and how they react to the subject and action of sex. Here is a brief overview:

• People who are enthusiastic in life have a high enjoyment level and very moral reactions toward sex.


• People very interested in life have a high interest in the opposite sex and are faithful to their partners.


• People who are bored in life have some disinterest in sex, mostly because they are not interested in anything. Sexual action can be performed, depending on physical ability.


• People who are openly hostile are disgusted with sex and have a revulsion toward sex. When people are very hateful, they can use sex as a punishment.


• People who are covertly hostile will be promiscuous, perverse and sadistic. They do not enjoy sex, but have a hectic anxiety about it. Here is the pervert, unfaithful lover, easy marriage and quick divorce.


• People who are constantly sad are often impotent and are anxious about sex, with only occasional efforts to procreate.
  

More info can be found in the course above and in the book: Science of Survival, which is a really informative book that talks about people and how to understand and deal with them.

Another reason I thought I'd bring the above info up on my blog is that I've run into situations with my friends where they weren't being so sane when it came to sex with other people. To me, a lot of the information that I read in the course above and in Science of Survival helped me understand what they were going through and how to help them.

Happy New Year!

I've been kind of sporadic in posting - especially this past month as it was my birthday, then Christmas... now New Years! Crazy! I wanted to wish everyone a very happy holiday season and I hope you all have a wonderful and prosperous New Year! I will be posting more about Scientology in the new year - and be slightly more consistent.

Solutions for Drug Addiction

L. Ron Hubbard has put together solutions for drug and alcohol addiction. I wanted that information in this blog in case anyone needed this sort of help, or knows someone who does.

There is an awesome program called Narconon that has helped many drug addicts - I know someone that used to be addicted to several different street drugs and she is at one of the Narconon centers getting treatment - which is going well. If this is something you, a friend or a family member is interested in, make sure to check out the website or call the hotline: 1-877-947-5900 and get help. There is nothing more heartbreaking then watching someone you love slide down the slippery slope of drug use and addiction.

You can also research what Mr. Hubbard has to say about drug addiction at home. I recommend getting either the booklet Answer to Drugs to get started or getting the Scientology Handbook. Both of these contain excellent information on why people get on drugs and how to solve the drug problem. I'll give you a little excerpt that I found particularly cool:

"Yet though the dangers and liabilities of drugs are blatantly obvious and increasingly well documented, people continue to take them.

"Why?

"When a person is depressed or in pain, and where he finds no physical relief from treatment, he will eventually discover for himself that drugs remove his symptoms."

There's more on this and how it affects the user mentally and spiritually in the Scientology Handbook chapter: "The Reason Behind the Drug Problem". I found this little excerpt profound in its simplicity. People don't take drugs because they are jerks - they take them because there's something wrong. The chapter above goes into the details of what is wrong and, later in the section, how to fix it.

Quote on Worth to Society

"What is important is how much service you can give the world and how much you can get done and how much better you can make things. These are important things. These are all that are important. A bank account never measured the worth of a man. His ability to help measured his worth and that's all. A bank account can assist one to help but where it ceases to do that it becomes useless."
— L. Ron Hubbard

Quote from "Problems of Work" by L. Ron Hubbard

Here is the quote that helped me out a lot in the book "Problems of Work" by L. Ron Hubbard:

"The only way to hold a job is to make it every day, to create it and keep it created. If you have no wish to create and continue that job, then there must be something at cross-purposes with purpose. There is something wrong between what you think would be a good purpose and what purpose your job has."

I realized that I had been thinking all along that I was at cross-purposes with my job, because it's not what I want to be doing until the end of my days. But, I do think it's got a good purpose. That's what helped me out in "Problems of Work" by L. Ron Hubbard.

Definitions:
Cross-Purposes means: "Conflicting or contrary purposes, aims or goals"
Purposes means: "Intended or desired results; aims; goals"

What has Scientology done for me lately?

I've been looking back at my blogs and realizing I sound a little preachy. That's not really how I want to come off. I really just want to tell people about my religion. It's something I'm proud of. Every time I learn more about it, I want to tell more people about it. So, that's really the point of this blog.

I've recently read a book by L. Ron Hubbard called "Problems of Work". The reason I was reading it is I was getting really bored and sick of my work. While reading it, I realized that, while work is something I have to do, day in, day out, it doesn't have to suck. I can totally have fun with it without slacking off. It's something that allows me to grow and expand. I work as an assistant and I have to say, it's not what I want to do for the rest of my life. My boss knows that. I want to write books - which is something I'm working on. But, while I have been perfectly forthcoming with my boss about what I want to do with my life, I am not always super in to my job. Now that I read this book, something clicked and I am in to my job now. It's fun and exciting. Once I figure out exactly what it was I read in the book that did this for me, I'll blog about it. Stay tuned.